I was recently at an executive coaching seminar, and the topic of EQ vs IQ emerged. The speaker quoted some Noble Peace prize winner (suggest name?) on his work of EQ. He paraphrased that, “we are emotional creatures before we are rational ones.” That is something to ponder as I rethink the created in the Image of God. He created us relationally (EQ), rationally (IQ), and functionally (leadership) like Him (Gen 1:28).
“Leadership is largely an emotional intelligence. Some estimates put it as high as 90%. Leadership encompasses influence, achievement drive, self-confidence, team skills, and political awareness. Failed leaders were too critical moody, angry defensive, and lacked empathy,” R. Grayson, PhD – from Emotional Intelligence: A Summary
Hiring Managers and Recruiters like Career Builder suggests the following in another HR blog:
“Emotional Intelligence or EI is an evaluation of person’s ability to remain in control of their emotions, use their senses to understand and react to other individuals’ emotions, and how they deal with relations… Due to the fact that the economy is under such uncertainty these days and companies are getting smaller, 34% of hiring managers said they are placing greater emphasis on emotional intelligence when hiring and promoting employees post-recession. Another major statistic is that 71% said they value emotional intelligence in an employee more than IQ.”
… from an excerpt of Dr. Kelly Flanagan’s blog Why “Messy” Could Be the Best Word to Live By This Year | UnTangled.
Hiding from Failure
Last week, an old friend posted a question to her Facebook wall. She asked, “What things keep you from pursuing the things you are most passionate about?” There were 37 comments and the most common response was, “Fear of failure.”
Failure is messy: it reveals our weakness and limitations and brokenness. And we are afraid of having our imperfections exposed. We would prefer to cover over our cracks and maintain a seamless facade. Meanwhile, inside, we compare ourselves to those around us—those who appear to have it all together—and we act as our own judge and jury.
Except we don’t hand down a guilty verdict; we hand down a verdict of shame. We equate our failures with a lack of value and the absence of beauty.
And the only reasonable response is to hide, quit, bury, never try, and certainly never risk failure.
We become paralyzed by the fear of our own mess…