Have you ever wondered the difference between Mentoring and Coaching? Go ahead, google it and you’ll find countless discussions over the two terms. In my simplest of descriptions, Mentoring is a highly personal relationship where the conversations revolve around clarifying questions, honing in on a focused vision, exploring life circumstances, and gently guiding the mentee to their own conclusion while evaluating all opportunities. On the other hand, Coaching centers on the content expert directing, training, and demanding excellence in a particular area of development. The relationship is more focused on the task versus the personhood. At the same time, good coaches know how to integrate the personal touch while still focusing on improving performance.
In both cases, what are the different environments (learning contexts) that Mentoring or Coaching can happen? I want to EXPLORE three different learning contexts we use in the education world: 1) Formal 2) Informal and 3) Non-formal learning.
- If you want the interesting version, click on the MENTORING VIDEO HERE or click on the embedded video up top.
- If you want the boring dissertation excerpt, read below.
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I recently finished up hosting a pre-conference gathering at a Missions Conference in So-Cal, hosted by Dr. David Platt and Francis Chan. I was super blessed to have a chance to interview a once-in-a-generation type leader, David Platt (Watch the FB LIVE video).
However, my most memorable time was joining a panel with SUPER SHARP church gurus sharing to a room full of influencing church leaders. We were invited to participate in a Q/A forum where we were asked a series of real-life-minsitry questions. I absolutely loved the dialogue between the 3 of us. I basically had front row seats and learn so many practical ways they served their church. At one point, I began taking notes while sitting on the panel.
Question #1: How do you prepare for Sundays?
At one point a thought provoking question was asked, “How do you prepare for Sundays?” I could have given your typical and proper answer: pray, read your bible, and pray some more. But, I wanted to be more helpful than some parrot-like response. I wanted to take the time here to share how I responded. Pretty much, this is my WEEKEND PRAYER as I’m driving to church. While football players have their locker room ritual to prep for the BIG GAME on Sunday, this is my Sunday drive-time ritual. Father, will you…
- Anoint me with the gift of PROPHECY. Now, this is where I may get lit up by my reform brothers. In short, I take the position that prophecy is the communication of Biblical truths in an eloquent, encouraging, and convicting manner. (Listen to John Piper’s brief audio response on this topic).
Before I speak, preach, or teach, I’ve already prepared ahead of time my talking points. I’ve written it down and gone over them in my head. Yet, sometimes the Spirit is leading me to say something else. No, not something WAY OUT OF LEFT FIELD where it’s not in my vocabulary. But, there may be a Bible verse, a phrase, or a story that “pops” up in my mind, just at the right time, extemporaneously. And that “phrase” will probably be the one line someone remembers that week.
Yes, we now have a new president! Our country just voted for a new president after a rollercoaster-like emotional campaign between two polarizing candidates. In the aftermath, I’ve been reflecting on how best we, the church, can be open and supportive of our future president.
THE BIG QUESTION
While Americans have the right to protest, just as they have the right to assemble and worship God, should Christians protest against the new presidential selection? The straight forward answer leads me to two prominent passages (below) in how Christians in the early church were taught to PRAY and SUBMIT to the governing authorities – the Roman Empire. Yes, this is the same empire that barbecued Christians for their faith.
“I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them. Pray this way for kings and all who are in authority so that we can live peaceful and quiet lives marked by godliness and dignity. This is good and pleases God our Savior”, (1 Tim 2:1-3 NLT).
“Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. So anyone who rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished,” (Rom 13:1-2 NLT).
Oh my…this may be quite difficult or impossible for many believers of the faith. How can Christians get behind and support anyone who has questionable character issues, temperament control, discernment in decision-making, and appear to have a difficult time accepting wise counsel? This personal dilemma caused me to search the Bible for answers where I can follow these New Testament imperatives with good conscience.
Here’s the great news. In both the OT and NT, we have a plethora of bad kings and good kings. God’s people always had to live under the rule of some pretty bad dudes. Then, God placed this proverb on my mind:
The king’s heart is like a stream of water directed by the Lord; he guides it wherever he pleases, (Pro 21:1 NLT).
I want to share three inspiring truths from this verse regarding our new “king”.
I believe every moment could be a life learning lesson. Yes, even the bad, embarrassing ones. On this particular Sunday afternoon, God made sure I learned a couple of lessons that are probably going to be a sermon illustration very shortly! Below, I wrote 2 sections: 1) The Epic Story & 2) the Learning Lesson. Go head and skip the story if you want to glean the golden nuggets of wisdom God wanted to teach me.
THE EPIC STORY: ELECTRIC CARS NEED GAS
On this particular Sunday afternoon, it was Daddy and Khoi time. We had finished an especially long weekend at church filled with festivities. My 6-year old son and I were heading home for lunch and a nap. And then it happened…
I had been driving my electric-hybrid car all weekend on “EMPTY”. Subconsicusly, I wanted to know how long can a hybrid go with the blinking “E” light. Ok, maybe not. Half-way home, I lost power to the gas pedal. Uh oh… I think I can coast this one to the closest gas station. Then, I had to stop at the red light with cars behind me and of course the there was no more power to the gas pedal. Cars were honking, and Khoi was asking, “Daddy, why aren’t we going?” I already know what my wife would have said, “Why didn’t you fill up when you had the chance? Why do you run it down all the way….”
Next, I did what every other man would do when he runs into a problem. Just turn it off, and start it up again! As if this solution fixed every IT tech support problem with modems, routers, DirecTV boxes, and laptop computer issues. YES, the car switched over to the battery, and I was able to move again out of the ensuing cars coming at me in the intersection. But luck doesn’t run in my family, and the car lost power again as I was costing into the next turn into a parking lot.
Sitting at a week long church growth conference at Saddleback Church with one of my favorite pastors, Rick Warren. I’m figuring out how to bless others while I sit here for 4 full days. This conference has been so enriching for my own leadership growth, staff team, ministry leaders, and my colleagues. I’ll be posting some of these gold nuggets over the next few posts. May it bless you in your leadership development.
Day 1: Communicating Your Purposes
It’s not enough to define your purposes and create a purpose statement. The leader’s #1 task is to continually clarify and communicate the purpose of the organization.
5 ways to communicate Vision & Purpose:
- Specifics (Strategy)
Don’t be afraid to repeat yourself. Nobody gets it the first time. Say it over and over in fresh ways. Practice “Creative Redundancy!”
I want to focus on the SLOGAN point. Slogans are short, memorable statements that people can recite. No one ever remembers a 10 minute speech, 45 minute sermon, or even a lecture outline last week. But, Slogans are powerful tools to help reinforce VALUES of an organization. I went ahead and started making a collection of Saddleback Slogans. CLICK HERE
If you’re at Saddleback, do you see any that I have missed? For everyone else, comment below and give me some of your best slogans that reinforces a value.
- Our courts oppose the righteous, and justice is nowhere to be found. Truth stumbles in the streets, and honesty has been outlawed. Isa 59:14
- We growl like hungry bears; we moan like mournful doves. We look for justice, but it never comes. We look for rescue, but it is far away from us. Isa 59:11
- Death has climbed in through our windows and has entered our fortresses; it has removed the children from the streets and the young men from the public squares. Jer 9:21
Thank God, the Bible isn’t silent on how we should proceed in dealing with our emotions. The Prince of Peace has given us examples of how we should respond by 1) Lamenting our frustrations, 2) Worshipping our Lord, and 3) Seeking Peace with others.
I ran across a recent blog by Pastor Mark Driscoll that helped answered a question I was perplexed during my early youth years. I wish had the WORD of GOD armed and ready, but failed in my feeble attempts to dual a self-proclaimed atheist. This could have been one of those moments that later inspired me to enter into seminary training. Much later in life, our family moved into a new home, and 2 sisters knocked on our front door from the Jehovah Witness church, asking the same question…
So why didn’t Jesus outright say, “I AM GOD”? Instead, he frequently referred himself as the “Son of Man”. Before we can answer this, you must also recognize that we’re over 2,000 years removed from the historical and cultural context of Jesus’ time. The words and phrases written in the Bible may obstruct us from seeing what was SO OBVIOUS to the audience of that time.
SHORT ANSWER: Jesus DID emphatically, publicly, privately, and unapologetically declare that HE was GOD.
Yes, Jesus wasn’t crucified because he supposedly broke the Sabbath laws, healed the sick, perform miracles, or teach “heresies” in the eyes of the Pharisees. He was put to death because he called himself, “GOD”… “I AM”. Here are 2 passages that may help you in answering this question. There are many more, and I invite you to add them into the COMMENTS section below.
- John 10:30-33: I and the Father are one.” Again his Jewish opponents picked up stones to stone him, but Jesus said to them, “I have shown you many good works from the Father. For which of these do you stone me?” “We are not stoning you for any good work,” they replied, “but for blasphemy, because you, a mere man, claim to be God.”
- Matt 26:63-65: The high priest said to him, “I charge you under oath by the living God: Tell us if you are the Messiah, the Son of God.” “You have said so,” Jesus replied. “But I say to all of you: From now on you will see the Son of Man sitting at the right hand of the Mighty One and coming on the clouds of heaven.” Then the high priest tore his clothes and said, “He has spoken blasphemy! Why do we need any more witnesses? Look, now you have heard the blasphemy.
You see, pretty clear right? Do you have any other passages that can encourage and equip others to firm up their faith in knowing Jesus was God? Add them to the COMMENTS.
Thank you, Pastor Mark for helping us answer this question. WATCH HERE